phoenix.

Let's face it, I have made a lot of really bad decisions when it comes to relationships in my life. I have dated some complete losers, low-life's, and befriended some very shady people. Through some of my "learning years" let's call them, I ran the gambit of figuring things out the hard way when it comes to relationships. I think this has made me cherish the true relationships in my life that much more.

George Washington said, "Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence." The Prez definately wasn't lying when he uttered those words. Working now with young adults, one of the concerns/complaints I hear more than anything else is, "I just feel so alone, I wish I had more friends." Living in rural Oklahoma, I used to echo these cries. I used to feel I needed people around, talking to me, texting me, or social networking me to somehow validate my life and not feel alone. Especially as a single late-twenty-something, it is easy to feel isolated.


But Washington's words come back to mind. I came to a point last year where I was extending myself and my time to so many people I was getting no sleep and continually stressed out. Some were getting jealous because of how I was dividing my time and I was just exhausted. People will take you for a ride, monopolize all your time, take up all your energy, and in the end spit you out when you don't give them what they want if you are not careful, that is why true, valuable, and close friends are hard to come by and one of life's greatest blessings.


Last week I was reminded of this while I was evaluating National Fine Arts Festival in Phoenix, Arizona. I grew up loving Fine Arts (to the horror of some) and never outgrew my passion for the program. It seemed like everywhere I turned I was greeted with a hug, a scream of excitement, and sometimes tears. I was literally surrounded by like-minded people who actually understood why I am living my life the way I am and who I want to be. I didn't have to put on a show or a facade, for one week I was relieved to "just be" and that be more than enough. 


Mind you, I do not see most of these people more than once a year. I have collected this handful of beautiful people over the past decade and a half through some of the most random twists of fate. Some of them I talk to monthly, some only a handful of times a year...nevertheless I know that No matter where in the world they are, they'd be on a plane in a second if I needed them. There is such a value in relationships that edify your spiritual walk and personal life decisions. I encourage you to be cautious in how and why you choose relationships. Often those that seem the most appealing will lead to your demise, where those you wouldn't give a second look end up as your soul-mate. 


I left Phoenix not only refreshed by old friends but encouraged by new relationships that are forming in my life. Some that might take me to new places within the ministry and life. I cherish and love every single one of you...


xoxo-B


P.S. To the friends I was not able to connect with, I am so sorry. Unfortunately AT&T didn't like my decision to live in a convention center all week.